Hook Up? Really?
Assalamualaikum.
So a few weeks ago aku ada terbaca this one discussion berkenaan dating apps/website yg ada kat Malaysia. Salah satunya, Tinder.
To be honest, yeap I have been on Tinder (on and off) since approximately 2014 if I'm not mistaken. Basically, most of the people I matched are quite decent. I even went on few blind dates here and there. But no one ever stick around lah. It's either the person I'm extra interested in; not interested with relationships, or not even have the interest to meet up (whenever this happens, I usually stop texting with the guy, well basically because I don't want to waste my time and effort, i.e. not investing). OR the person I've met not really up to my par. Well, mostly because I felt we were not compatible.
When I first use it, tbh yes I was looking for my so-called "significant other (SO)", so I was a little bit serious on swiping guys. I would only swipe those I think potentially can be my partner in crime (I even have this back-story ready to tell my parents IF ANYONE CATCHES ON), or at least someone decent. But meh, a few times of blind dates brought nothing to my table. So, I stopped for a while. I mean I stop being so serious. Hahaha! Then I would swipe guys just to see how much matches I could have. But, I have never intentionally swipe a guy knowing I would never talk to him or unmatch him immediately. I usually would give 2-3 days for a guy to say hello first, then if nothing I will text first. AAAAAND UNMATCH IF NO RESPOND WITHIN ONE WEEK OR SO. sorry capslock rosak tetibah KAHKAHKAH.
And for a while, I stopped using Tinder (when I met MHM) because gaissss kita kalau jumpa orang yang terus click dalam hati, yang kau belum rapat pun boleh jatuh hati, takkan aku nak looking around lagi. And I was quite lucky at the time because HE LIKED ME TOO! So yeah was in a two years relationship and stopped using Tinder. But went back to Tinder after the breakup... why?
SIMPLY BECAUSE I FEEL THAT I NEED SOME SORT OF VALIDATION. yeap, what the hell, right?
BUT I didn't regret that. Because I've managed to meet a lot of new people (I enable both Male and Female). Met some great poet and writers too! Other than that, mostly just decent people, which I had some pretty great conversations with. This time around, I was not really "hunting" or "searching" for SO, so basically I swiped without the romantic intention. But of course kena tapis juga sebab aku bukan lah naif sangat sampai tak pernah dengar cerita buruk pasal Tinder ni. oh fyi masa ni pun aku dah ada account lain, but serious lah Tinder jugak best hahahahaha yang lain hambar sikit.
Anyway, sepanjang berkecimpung ni bukanlah TAK PERNAH langsung orang ajak "naughty" tapi selalunya aku akan pancung secepatnya orang-orang macam ni. hey, girl needs to has her standard okay. biarlah di cop sombong atau acah hot.
So... maybe sebab ni kot aku tak rasa Tinder ni a hook up place. sebab mengikut pengalaman aku, 8/10 people I matched with really just want some decent conversations with strangers. But... I would never know whatever underlying intentions other people have, right? So yeah. For me, it is still not a place for you to look for hook ups. I don't know what platform exactly is perfect to find hook ups (because obviously I don't do hook ups).
Aaaanyway this is just my opinion, and my experience.
p/s: I have also matched with some creepy girls, I don't know, maybe catfish? Internet slowly is becoming sad and scary place. Or is it just me that just found out this "dark-side" of the Net? 🤣
So a few weeks ago aku ada terbaca this one discussion berkenaan dating apps/website yg ada kat Malaysia. Salah satunya, Tinder.
To be honest, yeap I have been on Tinder (on and off) since approximately 2014 if I'm not mistaken. Basically, most of the people I matched are quite decent. I even went on few blind dates here and there. But no one ever stick around lah. It's either the person I'm extra interested in; not interested with relationships, or not even have the interest to meet up (whenever this happens, I usually stop texting with the guy, well basically because I don't want to waste my time and effort, i.e. not investing). OR the person I've met not really up to my par. Well, mostly because I felt we were not compatible.
When I first use it, tbh yes I was looking for my so-called "significant other (SO)", so I was a little bit serious on swiping guys. I would only swipe those I think potentially can be my partner in crime (I even have this back-story ready to tell my parents IF ANYONE CATCHES ON), or at least someone decent. But meh, a few times of blind dates brought nothing to my table. So, I stopped for a while. I mean I stop being so serious. Hahaha! Then I would swipe guys just to see how much matches I could have. But, I have never intentionally swipe a guy knowing I would never talk to him or unmatch him immediately. I usually would give 2-3 days for a guy to say hello first, then if nothing I will text first. AAAAAND UNMATCH IF NO RESPOND WITHIN ONE WEEK OR SO. sorry capslock rosak tetibah KAHKAHKAH.
And for a while, I stopped using Tinder (when I met MHM) because gaissss kita kalau jumpa orang yang terus click dalam hati, yang kau belum rapat pun boleh jatuh hati, takkan aku nak looking around lagi. And I was quite lucky at the time because HE LIKED ME TOO! So yeah was in a two years relationship and stopped using Tinder. But went back to Tinder after the breakup... why?
SIMPLY BECAUSE I FEEL THAT I NEED SOME SORT OF VALIDATION. yeap, what the hell, right?
BUT I didn't regret that. Because I've managed to meet a lot of new people (I enable both Male and Female). Met some great poet and writers too! Other than that, mostly just decent people, which I had some pretty great conversations with. This time around, I was not really "hunting" or "searching" for SO, so basically I swiped without the romantic intention. But of course kena tapis juga sebab aku bukan lah naif sangat sampai tak pernah dengar cerita buruk pasal Tinder ni. oh fyi masa ni pun aku dah ada account lain, but serious lah Tinder jugak best hahahahaha yang lain hambar sikit.
Anyway, sepanjang berkecimpung ni bukanlah TAK PERNAH langsung orang ajak "naughty" tapi selalunya aku akan pancung secepatnya orang-orang macam ni. hey, girl needs to has her standard okay. biarlah di cop sombong atau acah hot.
So... maybe sebab ni kot aku tak rasa Tinder ni a hook up place. sebab mengikut pengalaman aku, 8/10 people I matched with really just want some decent conversations with strangers. But... I would never know whatever underlying intentions other people have, right? So yeah. For me, it is still not a place for you to look for hook ups. I don't know what platform exactly is perfect to find hook ups (because obviously I don't do hook ups).
Aaaanyway this is just my opinion, and my experience.
p/s: I have also matched with some creepy girls, I don't know, maybe catfish? Internet slowly is becoming sad and scary place. Or is it just me that just found out this "dark-side" of the Net? 🤣
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